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The main reason I started this site was to provide a place where moms could share their experiences and help one another survive and thrive in Parenthood. Enter in Totally Tip Tuesday, where I pick a parenting topic that on the brain and ask you, dear reader, to offer up your best aspiring-supermom tips. You never know who might put your advise to good use, just in time to save their sanity. So please speak up!
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This week's Totally Tip Tuesday Topic comes straight from the trenches of the Horsley Home, where I have broken up no less that 29 fights in the past 2 days. Now don't get me wrong - I've watched enough Super Nanny to know what to do when I encounter my children trying to kill eachother. What I am seeking is a way to PREVENT the fighting! I need to figure out how to encourage a peaceful co-existence between my kiddos.
How do you promote love between siblings?
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Lauren, there is no way to stop it compleatly, IMO, but I do have two little girls who are either best friends or very bitter ememies. But I would say that they are best friends about 95% of the time. I try hard to let my kids work out problems on their own. I tell them if they can't get along with eachother then they can't play with friends. I also try to point out all the ways that they love eachother. While big sister is at school we make her presents and I'm always trying to get them to do nice things to eachother. I also think they get along so well because my husband and I get along so well.
I'm not sure if any of this helps, we really have never had that big of a problem with fighting.
Hi I am new to your site, and am excited to be a follower.
One thing my cousin has tried with her older son is breaking up the fight and making him write down lines of why he is in trouble, and repeat them so many times. Then he has to explain to his dad when he gets home, why he had to write the lines down in the first place.
He writes lines when he talks back, fights with his brother, uses physical violence, doesn't listen. It works for her better than time out.
~Amanda Joy
I am going on about 13 years of sibling fighting. I think the only thing we can do is encourage kindness and hope that one day it sinks into their thick skulls. And if that doesn't work. Military school.
Alison - What great tips! I love what you said about how you and your husband get along - I think teaching by example is SO important.
Amanda Joy - Welcome and thanks for visiting! I'm so glad you shared your cousin's method because I have been trying to figure out a way to help my kids really understand why their being disciplined, not just focus on the punishment itself. I'm going to try this with my oldest son.
Steph - I do not believe for a second that your boys fight - they are always so well-behaved when I'm with them! You should seriously teach a pareting class - I would pay good money to find out how to turn my kids into such awesome teens like Zander and Josh. Or maybe I'll just send them to your house. :)
Hi Lauren,
I did an interesting post on this awhile back comparing sibling rivalry to bullying. What would you do if some other kid were treating your child this way or if your kid were treating some other child this way? You probably would put a stop to it very quickly.
I think the home needs to be a peaceful place where kids can be themselves and not be in constant conflict with each other. Sort of an in-home bully-free zone if you like. It will take some major changes in mindset for everyone, but I don't feel that sibling rivalry is inevitable and I think when kids understand that it won't be tolerated, they will find a way to get along.
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